Anonymous asked:
Have you ever fallen in love?

No. I don’t fall in love. I glide silently into love with both swords drawn.

enseoulment:

politicalsexkitten:

yukaryote:

Why Guys Like Asian Girls - Anna Akana

Everyone needs to watch this video. Now.

100% on point especially about men thinking that having “yellow fever” is a compliment and we’re supposed to be flattered by it. It’s the #1 way to parade around your blatant racism.

also side-eyeing the ladies who like “k-boys”

"THEY DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT WHO YOU ARE!
THE IDEA OF YOU IS ENOUGH!”

This is the core reason why guys are bad to women. “Nice guys” do the same thing to every women. Angry possessive guys do the same thing. They ALL do the thing! Sigh.

My gender is troublesome to me often.

Tuxedo Mask was at Comic Con this year?

Tuxedo Mask was at Comic Con this year?

lokicolouredglasses:

fandom-universe:

kungfucarrie:

The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”

"Come on, let’s mix it up!" The heart surgeon says.
"B-but we’ve always done it this way!" The other replies, "this is how you replace a heart valve."
"That’s the most dangerous phrase in the human language!" The first surgeon replies haughtily as he inputs a fruit loop into the patient’s heart. "This will be his valve. He will be a fruit loop in a world of Cheerios."


(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)
This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.

TIME FOR A PSYCH RANT!
Gather round tumblr… let me tell you some explains.
So kungfucarrie… this IS a very dangerous sentence. The problem isn’t that "change hasn’t happened" but that no one has a better answer for why than "because I saw that person do it". However… "I saw that person do it" is a ridiculously common function of socialization. Knowing WHY they did it is always better though. ALWAYS. I’ll expand after the surgeon reply.
THIS BRINGS ME TO THE SURGEON REPLY
NOPE. Nope because "we’ve always done it this way" is not the same as "We’ve studied and practiced and learned that this tends to work and until we know something better… stick with this cause it tends to work, even if it’s not perfect." So fandom-universe…. nope.
THIS BRINGS ME TO THE EXPERIMENT
@lokicolouredglasses After a lot of raking through a few databases of experimental psych articles this experiment doesn’t seem to be real. Some studies have skirted this idea but not with this specific conclusion. This "experiment" is a cross mark between behavioral condition experiments and anthropological observations of how monkey societies enforce rules (which is via beat downs in a lot of cases).
This allegory does do a good job of expressing the problem of follow the leader. The monkeys continue the tradition of beat down even after all comprehension of the reason has been removed. Businesses have used this fake experiment as a power point presentation to explain to corporations why a lack of growth and innovation is bad.
HOWEVER, let’s flip this
Make the bananas at the top of the ladder poisoned and put bananas on the floor to. Let monkeys have floor bananas. Spray them when they climb for poison bananas. Now you have someone who knows better putting a system in place that protects the monkeys from death without them understanding the threat. If they stop doing things the way they’ve always done them… a monkey doesn’t get beat up… the monkey dies.
But if the poison bananas are gone… or the monkeys are now immune to that toxin… they won’t know because they never get there. And now there is no scientist to tell them it’s safe to release the old practices.
What does this mean? (tl:dr)
Doing things as they’ve always been done isn’t bad.
Doing something that hurts someone without knowing the reason why it’s being done is what’s bad.
Not being open to change with the hopes of not hurting people is bad.
Everyone got that?
Good. :-)
:get’s off soapbox…. lights soap box on fire…. exits stage right:

lokicolouredglasses:

fandom-universe:

kungfucarrie:

The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”

"Come on, let’s mix it up!" The heart surgeon says.

"B-but we’ve always done it this way!" The other replies, "this is how you replace a heart valve."

"That’s the most dangerous phrase in the human language!" The first surgeon replies haughtily as he inputs a fruit loop into the patient’s heart. "This will be his valve. He will be a fruit loop in a world of Cheerios."

(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)

This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.

TIME FOR A PSYCH RANT!

Gather round tumblr… let me tell you some explains.

So kungfucarrie… this IS a very dangerous sentence. The problem isn’t that "change hasn’t happened" but that no one has a better answer for why than "because I saw that person do it". However… "I saw that person do it" is a ridiculously common function of socialization. Knowing WHY they did it is always better though. ALWAYS. I’ll expand after the surgeon reply.

THIS BRINGS ME TO THE SURGEON REPLY

NOPE. Nope because "we’ve always done it this way" is not the same as "We’ve studied and practiced and learned that this tends to work and until we know something better… stick with this cause it tends to work, even if it’s not perfect." So fandom-universe…. nope.

THIS BRINGS ME TO THE EXPERIMENT

@lokicolouredglasses After a lot of raking through a few databases of experimental psych articles this experiment doesn’t seem to be real. Some studies have skirted this idea but not with this specific conclusion. This "experiment" is a cross mark between behavioral condition experiments and anthropological observations of how monkey societies enforce rules (which is via beat downs in a lot of cases).

This allegory does do a good job of expressing the problem of follow the leader. The monkeys continue the tradition of beat down even after all comprehension of the reason has been removed. Businesses have used this fake experiment as a power point presentation to explain to corporations why a lack of growth and innovation is bad.

HOWEVER, let’s flip this

Make the bananas at the top of the ladder poisoned and put bananas on the floor to. Let monkeys have floor bananas. Spray them when they climb for poison bananas. Now you have someone who knows better putting a system in place that protects the monkeys from death without them understanding the threat. If they stop doing things the way they’ve always done them… a monkey doesn’t get beat up… the monkey dies.

But if the poison bananas are gone… or the monkeys are now immune to that toxin… they won’t know because they never get there. And now there is no scientist to tell them it’s safe to release the old practices.

What does this mean? (tl:dr)

Doing things as they’ve always been done isn’t bad.

Doing something that hurts someone without knowing the reason why it’s being done is what’s bad.

Not being open to change with the hopes of not hurting people is bad.

Everyone got that?

Good. :-)

:get’s off soapbox…. lights soap box on fire…. exits stage right:

"

"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

"

Libby Anne (via newwavenova)

so. real.

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samanthadoodles:

I’m glad you like it sis,
Cause this is the real me.

You have no idea how great it feels to be free.

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indikos:

lovelyandbrown:

huffingtonpost:

HERE’S JUST HOW MUCH IT PAYS TO BE CONVENTIONALLY ATTRACTIVE

We’ve come to expect impossible, even improbable standards of beauty to populate our magazines and our television shows. It’s another thing entirely to find they’ve invaded our workplace.

Watch Vox’s full video to see the many other ways these unrealistic beauty standards effect where we work.

Holy schnikes.

Then why the fuck am I so broke

This sort of build up is another example of accumulative advantage.

requiemforarainbow asked:
Z O X

Can you understand the mindset and logic used by the opposite spiritual opinion? An atheist understanding the belief in a higher power and vice versa.

I’m actually really good at seeing from the perspectives of others. It’s a great skill to have.

Would you rather spend one year with your one true love just to never see them again or the rest of your life with second best?

Life with the second best. I’ve spent most of my life being physically disconnected from the people I had the strongest sparks with. It’s painful and emotionally daunting. I would happily share my life with my second love.

You can eliminate one of your five senses to substantially strengthen the others, which one and would you do it?

Smell. I actively need my sight and touch to draw and cannot imagine a world without that. I get far too much enjoyment from music and food to surrender my hearing or taste. Smell is important to me… but out of the five… that’s the one to go. And I’d totally give it up if it was a guaranteed way to increase the effectiveness of those other four… no doubt. 

Life tip: when you want to tell someone they look like a celebrity… flip it.

"Hey ______ kinda looks like you."

It’s just a much better way to give that information as it makes them feel more special and important than the common version.